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| − | + | п»ї<title>Educating is a beautiful responsibility</title> | |
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| − | There are | + | Educating is a responsibility, a discovery and a moral duty that parents acquire when they decide to be parents. A wonderful journey full of mistakes and successes that is worth facing. |
| − | + | As a good parent, you want the best for your children: that they become good men or women, that they do not make the same mistakes as you, that they stand on their own two feet, and so on. But, be careful, if you want the happiness of your little ones you will have to teach them some things personally; that is to say, to take action. | |
| − | + | Why personally? Because what we are taught by the people we love is engraved much more deeply in our memory. Whether for better or for worse, the teachings conveyed to a child by the people of reference are going to be the pillars with which he or she is going to start exploring the world. | |
| − | + | "The first task of education is to stir up life, but to leave it free to develop." | |
| − | + | -Maria Montessori | |
| − | + | Think that if you don't do it, others will do it who could care less about your child. We are talking, for example, about television, video games, books... we are talking about any medium through which the child can receive answers to the questions that arise and that you have not given him. | |
| − | + | To educate is to provide the right questions | |
| − | + | But be careful, educating is more than giving answers. It is to make it easier for the child to ask the right questions at the moments when he is ready to understand the answers. Moreover, to educate is to teach how to find those answers when they are not within reach. | |
| − | + | In this education, do not discard any subject. Yes, I am referring to issues that have been taboo in our society until very recently and in some households still are. | |
| − | + | For example, sexuality. There are homes in which, when a scene with sexual content appears on television, they change the channel, look the other way or get red in the face. Thus, little by little, they teach the little ones that this kind of things are shameful and should be excluded from communication. | |
| − | + | On the other hand, by avoiding the subject, what they do is to awaken the curiosity of the little ones and leave them at the mercy of what they can find; content that is not always good or appropriate for their age. | |
| − | + | The importance of providing answersIn the past, what children could find on most of these topics was not much, but now they have Internet-enabled mobiles at an early age. Today they have at their fingertips a world in which truths and lies are intermingled without having internalized any kind of criteria to separate them. | |
| − | + | On the other hand, if we do not provide them with the answers they demand, they will stop using us as a source of information. Moreover, when they find the information through other media, of which they are passive consumers, they will not integrate the topics in their communicative capacity so that, when they have a partner and want to talk about sex? | |
| − | + | Do you think they will dare, that they will be skilled at doing? No, because he has learned that it is a shameful subject in words and will do what he has learned from Google and his peers. | |
| − | + | You might be interested in... | |
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| − | + | 9 phrases to educate in values | |
| − | + | Children are like sponges, they absorb everything they hear. That is why it is essential to pay attention to what we, as adults, tell them. We present you... | |
| − | + | It is a challenge to teach children personally when we have full-time jobs or when they are in a complicated stage, such as puberty. When children are young, they are with their parents as much as possible. However, with adolescence this is not the case. | |
| − | + | Adolescents step away and start and try to walk through the world as confidently as they have done in their circle of trust. However, they soon realize that outside of where they were, not everything works like where they were. | |
| + | This attracts and frightens them in almost equal parts. They can go from feeling like giants to dwarfs in an instant. However, if everything goes well, they won't want to go back, and it's a good thing they don't. | ||
| + | The bad thing is that sometimes, in order to defend this independence, they try to cut ties that they will continue to need, although not as much as before or in the same way. | ||
| + | So, the second challenge for parents is to grow up with their children. Do you remember how he started to walk: hesitant, clumsy, with some falls, and what did you do as parents? You let him lean and cling and only intervened when he could suffer a serious injury. | ||
| + | Tips for educating your childrenAs the child grows and begins adolescence, he will continue to fall and will continue to need to feel that you are there. But many times they will prefer to hold on to other places or fall rather than ask for your help because they need to learn. | ||
| + | Unless he can suffer a strong damage, let him, let him get an unfair grade, let him suffer his first disappointment in love, let him discover that a friendship he thought was true is not true, that you are fallible and full of mistakes... Because this is what happens in life, because it is necessary to discover the good things in life. | ||
| + | If you do not allow him a disappointment, you will also deprive him of a possible reconciliation. If you intervene when someone betrays his friendship, you will not allow him to learn to accept an apology. And if you protest to a qualification for him, you will not be letting him know the power he has to turn things around. | ||
| + | It's the easiest thing to do: son, don't do this because it's bad. Go a step further and give him reasons. Don't forbid smoking because by doing so you point to cigarettes as a potential form of rebellion. Explain to him the reasons why smoking does a lot of harm in the same way that any kind of drug does. | ||
| + | Give him arguments he can turn to for counter-arguments when someone denies that smoking is bad. Let it not be your word against a stranger's, but your arguments against his. | ||
| + | Let him understand that you need himLet him help you, let him gradually establish a reciprocal relationship with you. It is important that as he grows up he knows that he has many things to contribute to your life. That you are there to give and that you will give him, but that you also need things from him and they are no less important. | ||
| + | You will probably never reach a symmetrical relationship, but it is good that it is becoming more and more asymmetrical in this sense. | ||
| + | It's his life and his expectations | ||
| + | Help him discover his dreams, what he really wants. Maybe you want something else for him, you had imagined him growing up to be a renowned physicist and he wants to be an actor. Don't try to change him, because you have no right. | ||
| + | Even if you want the best for him, if you go against what he wants to be - what he wants to achieve - you can do him immense harm. Just as it is essential that you nurture their body when they are small, when they start to grow, it is essential that you nurture their dreams. | ||
| + | It doesn't matter if it's a profession that doesn't pay too much or that few end up doing it, your child deserves at least one chance to get it. Who says one says two, three, four, five, as many as he wants as long as he can hold on to the walls or fall and get up without having hurt himself too much. | ||
| + | Don't worry, in this sense you will learn too. When you are by his side to see the happiness he transmits when he does what he wants, you won't have to pretend to be proud because you will be the proudest parent on the planet. | ||
| + | Also, I advise you to always be there when he takes a little step towards his dream because if you don't, I can assure you that when he gets it, you will regret it. | ||
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6 phrases that can change your life
п»ї<title>Educating is a beautiful responsibility</title>
<img src="https://lamenteesmaravillosa.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/03/padre-leyendo-un-cuento-a-sus-hijos.jpg">
Educating is a responsibility, a discovery and a moral duty that parents acquire when they decide to be parents. A wonderful journey full of mistakes and successes that is worth facing.
As a good parent, you want the best for your children: that they become good men or women, that they do not make the same mistakes as you, that they stand on their own two feet, and so on. But, be careful, if you want the happiness of your little ones you will have to teach them some things personally; that is to say, to take action.
Why personally? Because what we are taught by the people we love is engraved much more deeply in our memory. Whether for better or for worse, the teachings conveyed to a child by the people of reference are going to be the pillars with which he or she is going to start exploring the world.
"The first task of education is to stir up life, but to leave it free to develop."
-Maria Montessori
Think that if you don't do it, others will do it who could care less about your child. We are talking, for example, about television, video games, books... we are talking about any medium through which the child can receive answers to the questions that arise and that you have not given him.
To educate is to provide the right questions
But be careful, educating is more than giving answers. It is to make it easier for the child to ask the right questions at the moments when he is ready to understand the answers. Moreover, to educate is to teach how to find those answers when they are not within reach.
In this education, do not discard any subject. Yes, I am referring to issues that have been taboo in our society until very recently and in some households still are.
For example, sexuality. There are homes in which, when a scene with sexual content appears on television, they change the channel, look the other way or get red in the face. Thus, little by little, they teach the little ones that this kind of things are shameful and should be excluded from communication.
On the other hand, by avoiding the subject, what they do is to awaken the curiosity of the little ones and leave them at the mercy of what they can find; content that is not always good or appropriate for their age.
The importance of providing answersIn the past, what children could find on most of these topics was not much, but now they have Internet-enabled mobiles at an early age. Today they have at their fingertips a world in which truths and lies are intermingled without having internalized any kind of criteria to separate them.
On the other hand, if we do not provide them with the answers they demand, they will stop using us as a source of information. Moreover, when they find the information through other media, of which they are passive consumers, they will not integrate the topics in their communicative capacity so that, when they have a partner and want to talk about sex?
Do you think they will dare, that they will be skilled at doing? No, because he has learned that it is a shameful subject in words and will do what he has learned from Google and his peers.
You might be interested in...
9 phrases to educate in values Children are like sponges, they absorb everything they hear. That is why it is essential to pay attention to what we, as adults, tell them. We present you... It is a challenge to teach children personally when we have full-time jobs or when they are in a complicated stage, such as puberty. When children are young, they are with their parents as much as possible. However, with adolescence this is not the case. Adolescents step away and start and try to walk through the world as confidently as they have done in their circle of trust. However, they soon realize that outside of where they were, not everything works like where they were. This attracts and frightens them in almost equal parts. They can go from feeling like giants to dwarfs in an instant. However, if everything goes well, they won't want to go back, and it's a good thing they don't. The bad thing is that sometimes, in order to defend this independence, they try to cut ties that they will continue to need, although not as much as before or in the same way. So, the second challenge for parents is to grow up with their children. Do you remember how he started to walk: hesitant, clumsy, with some falls, and what did you do as parents? You let him lean and cling and only intervened when he could suffer a serious injury. Tips for educating your childrenAs the child grows and begins adolescence, he will continue to fall and will continue to need to feel that you are there. But many times they will prefer to hold on to other places or fall rather than ask for your help because they need to learn. Unless he can suffer a strong damage, let him, let him get an unfair grade, let him suffer his first disappointment in love, let him discover that a friendship he thought was true is not true, that you are fallible and full of mistakes... Because this is what happens in life, because it is necessary to discover the good things in life. If you do not allow him a disappointment, you will also deprive him of a possible reconciliation. If you intervene when someone betrays his friendship, you will not allow him to learn to accept an apology. And if you protest to a qualification for him, you will not be letting him know the power he has to turn things around. It's the easiest thing to do: son, don't do this because it's bad. Go a step further and give him reasons. Don't forbid smoking because by doing so you point to cigarettes as a potential form of rebellion. Explain to him the reasons why smoking does a lot of harm in the same way that any kind of drug does. Give him arguments he can turn to for counter-arguments when someone denies that smoking is bad. Let it not be your word against a stranger's, but your arguments against his. Let him understand that you need himLet him help you, let him gradually establish a reciprocal relationship with you. It is important that as he grows up he knows that he has many things to contribute to your life. That you are there to give and that you will give him, but that you also need things from him and they are no less important. You will probably never reach a symmetrical relationship, but it is good that it is becoming more and more asymmetrical in this sense. It's his life and his expectations Help him discover his dreams, what he really wants. Maybe you want something else for him, you had imagined him growing up to be a renowned physicist and he wants to be an actor. Don't try to change him, because you have no right. Even if you want the best for him, if you go against what he wants to be - what he wants to achieve - you can do him immense harm. Just as it is essential that you nurture their body when they are small, when they start to grow, it is essential that you nurture their dreams. It doesn't matter if it's a profession that doesn't pay too much or that few end up doing it, your child deserves at least one chance to get it. Who says one says two, three, four, five, as many as he wants as long as he can hold on to the walls or fall and get up without having hurt himself too much. Don't worry, in this sense you will learn too. When you are by his side to see the happiness he transmits when he does what he wants, you won't have to pretend to be proud because you will be the proudest parent on the planet. Also, I advise you to always be there when he takes a little step towards his dream because if you don't, I can assure you that when he gets it, you will regret it. You might be interested in...
Positive authority: the most enriching way to educate your children. Positive authority is respect, discipline and communication. It is the kind of authority that lays the foundation for responsible, independent, and caring adulthood..... <a href=https://www.rxshopmd.com/products/antinarcoleptic/buy-modafinil-modalert/>modafinil generic brands</a>
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